Comments on: Adaptation http://www.thezogs.com/blog/2009/03/21/adaptation/ Us. Life. More baby pictures than you can shake a stick at. Thu, 02 Apr 2009 19:38:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Gisele http://www.thezogs.com/blog/2009/03/21/adaptation/comment-page-1/#comment-1088 Gisele Sun, 22 Mar 2009 01:34:35 +0000 http://www.thezogs.com/blog/?p=122#comment-1088 I think the best things that have happened to us to help us as parents have been the three day business trip Andy took when #1 was 9 months old and the various times the kids have gotten really bad colds that threw off their routines enough that we could change them. (We have really stubborn kids.) None of those seemed like a good thing at the time. #1 had gotten to taking 3-4 hours of intervention to fall asleep. When Andy went on his business trip, I just couldn't do it. After a few hours, I gave up. I had to let her cry. And after two hours, she was asleep. The next night was 30 minutes, then 5. Since then, bedtime has been pretty straight forward. We would never have had the courage to do that until we ran out of options like I did that first evening. Both kids self-weaned from (bedtime) bottles when they got so sick they couldn't/didn't want to suck on them. After two days of no bottle, they didn't get another one. Neither one complained. So often, since the kids have been born, I feel like I don't make the hard choices I *should* make, until I have run out of other, easier but not better, options. Maybe I'll blame sleep-deprivation too. :) I think the best things that have happened to us to help us as parents have been the three day business trip Andy took when #1 was 9 months old and the various times the kids have gotten really bad colds that threw off their routines enough that we could change them. (We have really stubborn kids.) None of those seemed like a good thing at the time.

#1 had gotten to taking 3-4 hours of intervention to fall asleep. When Andy went on his business trip, I just couldn’t do it. After a few hours, I gave up. I had to let her cry. And after two hours, she was asleep. The next night was 30 minutes, then 5. Since then, bedtime has been pretty straight forward. We would never have had the courage to do that until we ran out of options like I did that first evening.

Both kids self-weaned from (bedtime) bottles when they got so sick they couldn’t/didn’t want to suck on them. After two days of no bottle, they didn’t get another one. Neither one complained.

So often, since the kids have been born, I feel like I don’t make the hard choices I *should* make, until I have run out of other, easier but not better, options. Maybe I’ll blame sleep-deprivation too. :)

]]> By: Andy http://www.thezogs.com/blog/2009/03/21/adaptation/comment-page-1/#comment-1087 Andy Sun, 22 Mar 2009 01:19:45 +0000 http://www.thezogs.com/blog/?p=122#comment-1087 Oh, I can definitely concur. While our two are fairly different, we actually went through the opposite. E got sleep-trained fairly early, because we could tolerate her wailing. D, on the other hand, was drinking two bottles before bedtime, with some really amazing rituals around getting him to nap, until we finally gave up just a few months ago. He now babbles himself to sleep most nights, but she's at least passed out. Fortunately for us, he wants to go to sleep about an hour after she does, so by splitting the difference, we win. Oh, I can definitely concur. While our two are fairly different, we actually went through the opposite. E got sleep-trained fairly early, because we could tolerate her wailing. D, on the other hand, was drinking two bottles before bedtime, with some really amazing rituals around getting him to nap, until we finally gave up just a few months ago. He now babbles himself to sleep most nights, but she’s at least passed out. Fortunately for us, he wants to go to sleep about an hour after she does, so by splitting the difference, we win.

]]> By: Chrysoula http://www.thezogs.com/blog/2009/03/21/adaptation/comment-page-1/#comment-1086 Chrysoula Sat, 21 Mar 2009 18:46:19 +0000 http://www.thezogs.com/blog/?p=122#comment-1086 Not so mythical... Robin is a strange kid in a lot of ways, though. One of his strangenesses is that once he was old enough to be bored by falling asleep/waking up, as soon as we allowed him to have a couple of his favorite music-generators in his crib, he started being VERY easy to put to bed, and able to amuse himself when he woke up for a shockingly long length of time. On the other hand, he still refuses to walk as anything other than a game. And he hates falling asleep and waking up in the dark. Problems that will hopefully eventually solve themselves... Not so mythical… Robin is a strange kid in a lot of ways, though. One of his strangenesses is that once he was old enough to be bored by falling asleep/waking up, as soon as we allowed him to have a couple of his favorite music-generators in his crib, he started being VERY easy to put to bed, and able to amuse himself when he woke up for a shockingly long length of time.

On the other hand, he still refuses to walk as anything other than a game. And he hates falling asleep and waking up in the dark. Problems that will hopefully eventually solve themselves…

]]> By: Andromeda http://www.thezogs.com/blog/2009/03/21/adaptation/comment-page-1/#comment-1085 Andromeda Sat, 21 Mar 2009 18:08:32 +0000 http://www.thezogs.com/blog/?p=122#comment-1085 It was astonishing to me how much of a difference it made, to *us*, to nightwean V (and how easy it was when we got around to it, and why didn't we do that sooner!). But sleep-deprived people are <I>dumb</I>, so I try not to hold it against myself too much. It was astonishing to me how much of a difference it made, to *us*, to nightwean V (and how easy it was when we got around to it, and why didn’t we do that sooner!). But sleep-deprived people are dumb, so I try not to hold it against myself too much.

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